Anal Sex and Anal Toys - The Ultimate Sex Fantasy
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:28:00 +0000

Anal sex has so far been treated as a topic which attracts taboo. People are aware that it exists but very very few people tend to talk about it. Lack of discussion on the topic leads to spread of misinformation which is the budding point of certain myths which makes individuals reluctant to practice this wonderful fantasy. This is like a vicious circle which has left people with bad impressions about anal sex and hence it is being regarded as being abnormal. The first thing that is always recommended is proper investigation before jumping to conclusions. A discussion or a serious conversation is what is required and would be considered ideal. One should share their wealth of knowledge on this subject as it is a topic which people would like to know more about. People will welcome your experience and knowledge on the subject and would always be grateful to you for your contributions. Here is some good information about anal sex that would prove useful to many people. The first and foremost thing about anal sex is the consent of the partner. Many females do not like the concept of anal sex. So anal sex should not be forced upon them as it carries the risk of not only health but ruining the entire relationship. Next comes the lubrication part. Lubrication is very improtant during anal sex. This is because like vagina, anus does not produce natural lubricants. Hence anal penetration without lubrication can cause pain and there is a risk of blood vessels being ruptured leading to bleeding. Lubricants make the anal sex very comfortable. The penetration becomes easier and pleasant. The pain element is taken out of the equation and the partner tends to enjoy as there are a large number of nerve endings in the anus compared to vagina. Water based lubricants are recommended the most as they are easily absorbed by the body and do not cause damage to the anus, rectum, condoms or even sex toys. Another important recommendation for anal penetration is to always use a condom. Anal region is full of bacteria and these might cause irritation to the penis and spoil the fun in the anal sex. Lubrication does not ensure that the bacteria would be removed. Usage of condoms even prevents the spread of STD's if the partner is suffering from any. Anal toys are also a great way to begin the experience of engaging in anal sex. These allow the person to achieve a comparatively leisurely dilation of the anal region, which makes it more receptive towards penis or a penis shaped sex toy. allows you to be more ready to receive a penis or a penis shaped toy. There are different forms and types of anal toys, each with its particular characteristics. However each of these anal toys have one thing in common i.e. their base is always broad to prevent toys from getting sucked into the anus. Prostate toys offer dual pleasure to the person. They help in giving the person a prostate massage and also give an unmatched anal pleasure. For enhanced anal experience one should prefer branded and effective sex toys. One of the most effective and proved sex toys are from the nexus range which have been considered to be the best in their field. Anal sex requires the anal region to be completely relaxed. The more relaxed the region will be the more enjoyable. This stands true even while using anal toys. If there is stress to the body then one should try to relax before having anal sex so as to gain maximum pleasure from it. We hope these basic tips will help you get more information so you can fully enjoy the practice of anal sex. And remember to talk about this issue. The experiences and fantasies of others are a valuable source of information that will allow you to enjoy anal sex and experience its high levels of pleasure.

Vibrating Cock Rings - Ultimate Adult Sex Toys for Couples
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:27:00 +0000

Cock rings are the ultimate in male sex tools for a long lasting erection and fantastic orgasms. They are also used in playful lovemaking between couples. Some cock rings have extra adornments that provide clitoral stimulation for the woman during sexual intercourse. So what exactly are cock rings? Cock rings are devices that encircle the penis, fitting either at the base or around the penis and testicles. They may be adjustable straps of leather or cloth with fasteners, or solid rings of rubber or metal. How do cock rings work? These rings work with a quite simple logic. They restrict the flow of blood out of the penis, as the vessels that bring blood into the penis during erection are farther from the surface than the veins that carry blood away, thus keeping it engorged. The cock ring exerts pressure on the surface vessels. It doesn't mean that the the blood circulation totally cuts off, but it slows down, meaning you get a bigger, harder erection that can last longer. Moreover, it may also put pressure on the vas deferens, which carries sperm to the penis, thereby delaying ejaculation which can give you extra time and create a truly explosive orgasm. Vibrating cock rings are typically worn on the base of the penis. Unlike your conventional metal or stainless steel cock ring which binds the penis and testicles together to trap the blood in the penis, a sex toy such as a vibrating cock ring may be worn on the base of the penis to stimulate the clitoris and the testicles simultaneously! There are however, better vibrating rings that can be worn anywhere on the penis. The bigger the penis, the more G-Spot vibrating cock rings can be used! The vibrating cock ring has a protuberance which is housed for the mechanism of vibration and the battery. This protruding switch is a section to apply pressure on the clitoris. Once started, the vibrating ring starts spreading vibrations in the body of both partners if they are in contact with the cock ring. More about Cock Rings With the introduction of the vibrating cock rings, the pleasure has just doubled. And as a vibrator has always been a favorite sex toy of women who look to heighten their pleasure during lovemaking, cock ring is like a boon for both the partners. Such rings are also very important from the point of view of helping the people to achieve better sexual intercourse and in exploring the best possible orgasms. This has now become one of the most used sex toys among couples, some even consider them as some of the most popular female sex toys on the market For males, it helps in vibrating the cock as well as surrounding areas of the penis. They also deliver perfect sensations all the time while you are busy in other sexual activities. For females, apart from acting as an enhancer for penis erection in their partners, it can provide clitoral stimulation. Such cock rings are also known as multiple stimulation cock rings. Vibrating cock rings are designed in such a way that they add to the sexual pleasure of both men and women. With the use of such cock rings people can really achieve greater intimacy and pleasure during sexual performance. This article has provided some information on Cock Rings. To know more about vibrators, and about the famous cock rings please visit sexyfun.co.uk - The online adult male sex toys shop

Learn Better Love Making Techniques : How to Give Her More Satisfaction
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:27:00 +0000

Learn Better Love Making Techniques : How to Give Her More Satisfaction Couples who actually care for their relationship always make time to make great love with their partner. There are 5 things to keep in mind for improving your love making techniques and satisfying her the right way. 1. Don't just talk! Communicate It's the need for sex, closeness, emotional connections that draw people together. Love, friendship, communication and attraction are the glue that keep the bond between lovers strong and stable. Make it habit to chat to one another everyday about how you're feeling. Of course both of you are probably very busy people, but that's precisely why it's important to talk. Don't assume that simply because your other half loves you, that they will be able to read your mind and understand your feelings. The simplest way to appreciate ther other is simply through good communication. 2. Kiss like Teenages Did you know that the Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kissing? The kiss is one thing that couples must not take for granted. Couples who've been together for a very long time simply make love and often head straight to the intercourse. The kiss is an incredibly intimate event, one which can express passion, love, intensity and arousal - all in one go! When meeting your lover after a long day, in bed at night, or while going out to the mall - simply take the time to kiss gently and with intention. It will make your partner feel incredibly special. 3. Sensual Touch There's a wealth of information on the different "erotic zones" which females respond to and enjoy. These are "hot spots" that can set her off into a frenzy, if carried out the right way. Learning all about touch and the different sensual massage techniques to female arousal will hugely increase your love making skills as well as her pleasure. Hot spots on a woman inlcude the lower back, inner thighs, neck, hands and forehead (obviously excluding the intimate areas which should only be explored after at least 15 - 20 minutes of gentle carressing of the hot spots). Slow and sensual touching allows a woman's arousal to slowly and deeply build up to a level which allows her to experience incredible pleasure and satisfaction during intercourse. By not indulging and pamering your lover with atleast 20 minutes of foreplay, you will prevent an increase in arousal, and therefore satisfaction, and may reduce her interest in you and physical intimacy all together. 4. Ask questions Find out what she likes during intercourse. Often women don't enjoy sex because there are things or aspects of your technique that she is not comfortable with or does not like, or perhaps there are reasons personal to her. If you don't ask you won't know! Encourage your lover to explore her sexual curiousity. Perhaps there are sex positions that she isn't ok with but she is scared to tell you, or ones that she is interested in trying out. What is vitally important is that she is comfortable and relaxed enough to forget all her inhibitions and just surrender to fabulous lovemaking with you. Often ladies are nervous to give their all during sexual play because they are not emotionally motivated. An appreciated woman is a passionate woman! Make her feel loved, beautiful and let her know that she's the sexiest lady for you. Take the time to listen to her, help her out, and to give her some time and focus. 5. Oral Pleasure Nothing tops off great love making like female oral sex pleasure. That's why it is vital that you understand how to touch her in the right places and give longer oral sex for her to get fully aroused and responsive to intercourse. Remember that less is more. Start slowly by gently kissing and nibbling the inner thighs moving slowing along them, teasing her at the same time. Stroke her stomach, thighs and hips. Stimulate the outer vaginal lips for atleast 5 - 10 minutes before proceeding on to the clittoris. Apply a variety of tongue strokes to the clittoris, making sure that you move in a rythym i.e. apply 5 left to right strokes of the tongue, rest, and then repeat. Do this 3 -4 times, and then change the movement of your tongue. Add variety and keep her guessing. Now there you have it gentlemen. The keys tips to better love making and female pleasure

How to Score With Women
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:25:00 +0000

The subtle art of seduction is something is something that some people are just born with, while there are others that need a little help learning the basics. If you want to learn how to score with women, I can help. Learning how to score with women first requires you to know where to look. Many guys right off the bat, head to the local night club to meet and attempt to hook up with hot drunk chicks. This has been proven to be an effective technique, but think of one thing, this place is packed. You will have more competition than you could ever imagine, and unless you are experienced in being able to flirt and pick up women, you have a long lonely night ahead of you. Take a look around you as you go about your day, unless you work in a male prison or an all boys school, I bet you are surrounded by women, so going out of your way to search for them isn't necessary. Once you've encountered the right girl that you want to try for, you have to know what to say to her. All women essentially want to hear the same things. Start out with some light general conversation, ask an opinion on something. Don't hop right in with compliments, she may immediately go on the defensive thinking you have an alterior motive. You have to be very discreet. Once some small talk has been started, very discretely make an inquiry if she has a boyfriend, or married. Say something like, "That's hilarious, your boyfriend must have been upset." How she responds to this is key, if she responds with no boyfriend, keep going. If anything other than a direct no, say thank you for a pleasant conversation and turn around and walk away. If you've made it this far, then you are standing a good chance, just don't get too excited too quickly, you stii have work ahead of you. When you responded with not having a boyfriend, you want to come back with a response of pure shock she isn't taken already. Being considerate her is key, don't begin staring at her chest or give compliments on her backside. She will respond back to your consideration and shock as a signal that you are interested in her. Every woman wants to be desired, so if she thinks you want her, you are in. You should now at this point be in a good conversation, with some good flirting going on. It's time to get down to business, you should have by now piqued her curiousity and should be able to ask her out with no problems. You've put in some good effort thus far, don't go and blow your opportunity with a horrid proposal. Keep it simple, infact the best way of doing it isn't asking a question at all, it's more like telling her. Something such, "Let me take you out to dinner" or "Let's grab a coffee together sometime", should suffice. Once she agrees to go another meeting, congratulations, you've figured out how to score with women. Now the important this is to know what to do to keep her interested.

What the Bible says about Dating
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:24:00 +0000

A while back some friends and I were out at dinner and the conversation eventually turned to dating. All kinds of topics were being discussed (passionately!) and the conversation seemed to fall along gender lines with the common denominator being that all involved had been hurt in relationships in the past. At some point, a man at a table behind me heard one of my friends say that he didn't date because he felt it was pointless. When he heard this, this guy came over to our table and began to lecture on how "unbiblical" dating was and that he had been married for 14 years and had a 13 year old daughter and that dating wasn't an option for her. He said that courting was what God wants us to do and that dating is part of society's lies that Christians have bought into.Now this isn't the first time I've heard this approach by any means. Anyone who's read the uber-annoying "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris* will immediately recognize this line of argument. (If Harris isn't hardcore enough for any of you, you can go a step further into crazyland and read "Her Hand in Marriage" by Douglas Wilson.) So while the argument wasn't anything new, for some reason it kept kicking around in my head the rest of the night and the more I thought about it, the more annoyed I became. Out of respect and not wanting to cause unnecessary division, I didn't say anything when the guy at the restaurant was going on about dating being unbiblical. However, I should have asked him a few questions about many of the points he was making.#1 - "Dating is unbiblical! You can't find anyone dating in the Bible. It's not God's plan for His children."Is dating really unbiblical because it's not mentioned in Scripture? I wanted to ask the guy if he walked to the restaurant. "No, I drove" he'd probably say. "Well, that's unbiblical you know. No one in the Bible drove cars. Cars are an invention of society that God didn't intend. Christians should either walk or ride a donkey, horse, or camel wherever they need to go (no chariots though; those are what the wicked Egyptians, Babylonians and Assyrians rode in! Um, unless of course it is a chariot of fire; then it's okay.)"My point is that just because something isn't in the Bible doesn't mean that it's not Biblical. This is an error that people make way too often and then pontificate as if they are providing evidence for a "Biblical" position on something. Lack of evidence is not evidence of lack.#2 - "Courtship! That's the Biblical way we should pursue marriage!"[note: "courtship" is only being around someone in a group setting until you are ready to get engaged. At that point, the parents get together with the man and decide whether or not he can pursue the woman romantically. Engagement soon follows and then comes marital bliss.]Really? Courtship is THE Biblical norm? Hmmm...Did anyone tell that to Ruth? What about Esther? How about Abigail?The fact is that the notion of "courting" being advanced by anti-dating Christians is not by any means the norm in Scripture. God nowhere gives instructions on choosing a wife/husband. Nowhere do we find courting spoken of in a proscriptive manner. Whenever we find it, it is in a descriptive manner.What I really want to have asked the man is "Your daughter can't date, she can only be courted? Cool. She's 13 years old and has reached child-bearing age, when can I tell my 25 year old friends they can begin courting her? What?! What do you mean that's ridiculous?! In Biblical Hebrew society, women married in their early-to-mid teens. Mary was probably very close to your daughter's age when she had Jesus. If it's good enough for the mother of our Lord, why not your daughter?"Of course I am playing devil's advocate; but my point is that Christians who argue up and down for a "Biblical" approach to romance almost NEVER actually want to implement a truly Biblical approach to romance! Courting advocates NEVER talk about a dowry. They never suggest allowing their daughter to be selected by a servant of the prospective husband (such as happened with Issac and Rebekah). They NEVER advocate a 7 day wedding feast which begins with the groom taking the bride into the bedroom and consumating the marriage. (THAT would be a wedding to remember!)#3 - "Well, dating is not authentic! People are putting forward an image that they want the other person to like rather than being themselves. Besides, you shouldn't give your heart to someone until you're ready for long term committment and you can't determine this when you're dating someone you don't really even know that well."This is understandable, but it's just not sound thinking. Here's why: it is using poor behavior (being fake on a date) to argue against the larger setting (going on a date with someone). St. Augustine said it best over 1,600 years ago, "Never judge a philosophy by its abuse."Are people fake on dates? Sure. Do they often put their best side front and center and downplay their weaknesses and flaws? Of course. Does this mean that dating must necessarily entail this type of behavior? Not at all. This objection isn't really against dating per se; it's against bad dating.But I'd like to ask the person above, "Are people fake in friendships?", "do people put their best side forward and downplay their weaknesses and flaws in friendships?" Yes to both. Should we then label friendships as unbiblical?As for not giving your heart to someone you just started dating...I agree completely! Again, this is not a problem with dating, it is a problem with poor choices when dating. Dating should be nothing more than a guy and a girl who openly acknowledge that they are attracted to one another on various levels and are therefore spending more time together in order to discover whether or not they are a potential spouse. No one should begin picking out china patterns after a few weeks of dating; and just because many people make this mistake doesn't mean that they HAVE to make this mistake. Dating should be a "feeling out" time that either leads to the realization that this is not the person for us at this time (thus ending the dating relationship) or that this is the person we would like to pursue marriage with eventually (thus strengthening the relationship and deepening the committment).#4 - "I don't care! Courting is more Godly than dating!"Okay, follow me here: you meet someone you really like. You begin to hang out with them in group settings as friends. You really like them more and want to pursue them as a serious potential spouse. You ask the parents, they give their blessings. You then start spending time alone with the person in romantic settings......so, um, HOW is this not dating???All you've done is taken things extremely slow and gotten to know the person better before you begin dating them! Call it "courting" if you want, it's still spending time together alone with someone you're romantically attracted to and who you think might be a potential spouse. You're dating. Period.It seems that the man who came to our table had passion and zeal for the Lord (a really good thing!) and he hated the abuses that many people commit frequently when dating (another good thing!) so he was only too happy to hear about a "Biblical" alternative (a la "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"). The only problem is that this alternative is simply dating with some extra components when all is said and done.Anyway, I'm pretty sure this man won't read this (if he's anti-dating for his daughter, I'm SURE he's anti-Myspace :), but I just couldn't stop thinking about this encounter and I really just wanted to put something out there that takes Scripture more seriously.Should Christians date? If they want to, sure. We should just date in a truly Biblical manner--complete honesty, self-sacrificial giving, sexual purity, emotional responsibility, and readiness to acknowledge and work on our shortcomings which invariably surface in a dating relationship. Any and all comments welcome, as usual.* For the record, I actually have a lot of respect for Joshua Harris and would probably enjoy hanging out with him. He is a brother in Christ with a passion for Jesus and a sharp mind and wit. And even though I hated "I Kissed Dating Goodbye", I do highly recommend his newer book "Stop Dating the Church" for my generation who are prone to church-hopping rather than committing to a local body of believers. Hopefully this glowing endorsement of the latter will counterbalance my ridiculing of the former, should Josh ever come across this article! :)

First night
Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:21:00 +0000

It was like a scene from wrestlemania in my bedroom last night. Don't get excited. Not that kind of wrestling. There were no slippery-limbed scufflings. No wild gropings of wobbly bits wrapped in Lycra or PVC. And no time-calling, ding-ding girls in micro minis and heels. Even worse, there was no ref. So it's not surprising things fell a bit foul. Round One - 11.50pm. I get home and he's already in bed. ?Baby, you're here? I say, stunned into stating the obvious. ?I've been phoning and phoning, why didn't you answer?? ?Been sleeping,? he says, eyes closed, head motionless on the pillow. ?Oh,? I say. ?I thought you were still at Rob's - when did you get back?? ?Dunno. An hour ago maybe.? ?Well why didn't you call when you left?? ?Dunno,? he says, eyes still closed. ?Suppose I assumed you'd already be home by, like, 11 on a Monday night.? He turns over, turns his back to me. The conversation is over. Clearly. His breathing slows and rises to an almost-snore. I make a ?humph? sound, turn and flounce to the bathroom to brush my teeth. Unfortunately, my reaction is wasted. He's too far gone to see that I'm still peeved. Sigh. Welcome to the weirdest, wildest, crapiest kind of wrestling around. The he-said, she-said, dung-slinging slugfest that only happens within the ring of a long-term relationship. It's a battleground, really. A blood sport. A joke. Why? Because men and women just aren't natural opponents. Why do you think wars are waged by guys and catfights by girls? Because men like a fast fight followed by an even faster flight (and, in battle if not in bed, bigger is better if you want to get it over with quickly). Women, on the other hand, prefer an unhurried hissing fit and a slow, acerbic scratching out of eyes. Maybe that's why well-evolved men employ the subtle art of avoidance. Just like my man is doing right now. That's so typical, I fume to my reflection. He just turned over and went to sleep. Won't even stand up and fight like a man. Especially when he's obviously in the wrong and there's so much to talk about. I'm foaming at the mouth now, and it's not just the toothpaste. In fact, I'm limbering up for the long haul. Round Two - 11.59pm. In the bedroom. ?Baby?? I say loudly. ?Are you sleeping?? ?Sssh,? he says, face scrunched in apparent pain. ?No, I'm not really sleeping. Just playing dead so you'll go off and hunt someone else.? ?Okay, seriously,? I say, eyebrow raised, hands on hips. ?Weren't you worried when you got back and I wasn't home at, like, 11 on a Monday night?? ?Dunno,? he says, opening an eye. ?I thought you were at your sister's.? ?I was. But what if I wasn't?? ?But you were.? ?But what if something had happened to me - a woman driving alone on these treacherous roads. You just got home and blithely went to sleep without caring - just like you're blithely going to sleep now.? ?I'm not,? he says, eyes closed again. ?You are.? ?Hang on,? he sits bolt upright. ?Were you or were you not at your sister?? ?Yes, I was, but...? ?And where does your sister live?? ?Down the road, but...? ?And do you, in fact, have a mobile phone?? ?Yes, but...? ?So you could have called me, right?? ?Um... I suppose, but...? ?Is that a yes?? ?Um... well, yes.? ?Thank you. And good night.? Sigh. Maybe men live by the old adage, ?He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day?. Or maybe they're just wusses. I don't know. Either way, you'll never see a real male-female face-off in the good, old grunt-fuelled WWE. No, not because she would get pulverized to a pulp, but rather because he wouldn't have the stamina for her kind of scrap. Anyway, lucky for me my man's better at avoiding than I am at fighting. Perhaps that's why we spend more time loving than we do lunging for each other's throats. Plus, we have way more time and energy for other things. Like sleeping. And that other kind of wrestling.